Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the reasons why we (ok, mainly me) can be so resistant to change… even, and maybe even especially, the ones we really want. (They usually feel much like the picture above don’t they?) It seems to boil down to the same old thing every time. Even if we are uncomfortable where we are, it’s a known discomfort versus the unknown on the other side of change. Which led me to wonder, is it a hard-wired thing? Some sort of survival instinct that best not be ignored? If so, then how have we ever evolved past living in caves and stalking woolly mammoths?
In his book Change Or Die, Alan Deutschman breaks it all down into three required steps to create change… all sounding very simple… 1.) Relate 2.) Repeat 3.) Reframe. So, if it’s as easy as all of that why does even the smallest change sometimes feel impossible?
Going forward, we will take a look at each of these steps… try to figure out which one we may be on, what are our challenges there, what we can do about it, and how we can hopefully move on to the next one.